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Asexual Bingo 2 is here! TW for vile language, discussion of sexual assault, acephobia, and most -isms.
The first Asexual Bingo:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJ…
A downloadable Bingo Card for you:
http://juliesondradecker.com/wp-conte…
My book on asexuality, The Invisible Orientation:
http://juliesondradecker.com/?page_id…
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EX ASESSUALI: le testimonianze dei guariti
Translation: Ex asexuals, witnesses of the healed ones
Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita
Excerpt, translated via Google translate:
«Although asexuality is not an offense such as pedophilia, which harms third parties causing serious damage and trauma, it still generates heavy emotional, psychological and social disturbances and repercussions both in the person affected and in any partner. However, if society has rightly condemned pedophilia, this has not yet happened with asexuality, due to the lower social and physical danger of the pathology, but above all because of the political pressures linked to an unjust extremism of meaning politically correct.
Therefore subjects affected by asexual disorder should be treated as pedophiles, or induced to take care of themselves in order to try to reduce the damage or, if possible, heal.
It would be nice to be able to delude ourselves that asexuals will die out, since they do not reproduce. Unfortunately, however, they are all creatures born of ignorance forced by the dictatorship of minorities and ignorance, as you know, is always pregnant.»
Read the whole article here.
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ASESSUALITÀ, l’elenco delle sottocategorie aggiornato con le ultime novità
Translation: Asexuality, list of the subcategories updated with the last news
Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita
Excerpts, translated via Google translate:
«These subjects unjustly claim the existence of a fourth sexual orientation with respect to the only three existing sexual orientations: straight, homo and bisexual. Their absurd slogan is: “No sex, no problem” because, according to what they would like to convince themselves, they could live happily even without sexual pleasure, without masturbation, without frustrations due to the absence of sex. This, of course, is only a bitter attempt to cover up the malaise in the person who lives it, due to the pathological lack of sexual desire. In fact, many of them have aggressive attitudes towards sexuality, being rightly people who have repressed their sexual impulses for physical impossibility to have relationships or psychological motivations.»
«We cite therefore, by way of example but not limited to, only a few labels including, that of greysexual, lithosexual, akoisessual, fraysexual, apotosexual, aegosexual, autochorosexual, quoisexual, asexual, cupiosexual, demiromantic, greyromantic, demiromantic, poliromantic, poliromantic, poliromantic pomomomial skolyoromantic, lithromantic, sapioromantic, antisexual, queerplatonic, semisexual, etc.
It is not necessary to go into unnecessary details analyzing one by one all these far-fetched categories, also because it would be an operation that would please these demented endorsing their delirium. It is sufficient to limit ourselves to saying that they are all the result of the same pathological weakness: that of feeling at all costs part of a group, identifying itself in a category.
And for each of these labels there is a minority group that claims to have the right to socially redeem their specific, deserving of protection, fetishistic delirium linked to the repulsion of sex.
Because if society has discriminated against homosexuals and Jews in the past, it would be very serious today to discriminate against them too! Any person who wakes up one morning and claims to create a label based on their dog’s cock, through which to claim rights, must be automatically considered to be the custodian of the right not to be discriminated against.»
Read the whole article here.
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“ASESSUALITÀ”: una nuova etichetta nata per giustificare un grave disturbo sessuale
Translation: Asexuality, a new label born to justify a serious sexual disease
Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita
Excerpt, translated via Google translate:
«The lobby of LGBT associations, in fact, mistakenly tries to label these disorders as sexual orientations, even comparing “ASEXUALITY” to homosexuality, unfairly invoking criteria of freedom and non-discrimination to protect this minority. In reality, wanting to make a forced comparison, “ASEXUALITY” should be more properly compared to pedophilia, as both disorders are harmful sexual deviations. If pedophilia harms, unfortunately, third parties abused, “ASEXUALITY” is in any case detrimental to the personal balance of the person affected and any partner. The direct effect of asexual disorder is, of course, the impairment of one’s social and relational life conduct, which is affected by the difficulty of relating to a primary and atavistic drive such as sexual instinct. This damage is as serious as that caused by the opposite disorder, or hypersexuality, more commonly known as “nymphomania”.»
Read the whole article here.
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This is #68 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I read some comments on a mainstream media article where the fellow argues that nobody should hate or harass asexuals; we should all just feel sorry for them, and by no means should we treat them like this is a normal enough way to be. The difference must be acknowledged or someone might get the idea that it’s okay to live like that or something! Sheesh! 😀
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This is #55 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I read a “humorous” article someone wrote about asexuality in which we were portrayed as hilariously worked up about what we don’t do, with multiple potshots at misrepresentations of our community. And then I explain why what this person did isn’t the kind of funny that is functionally distinct from bigotry and why some of his phrasing choices are super awful.
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Check out the Sky News documentary to see the comments for yourself (there were many more than what I said here, some which are worse):
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today some ace friends and i went to Tokyo Rainbow Pride where we were approached by a smug as fuck acephobic asshat. this video is dedicated to those who do not believe that acephobia and/or asexual erasure are a thing and to those who struggle dealing with people belittling the shit you deal with.
let there be video of acephobia & asexual erasure in action for the world to see.
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※ what is acephobia?
fear, prejudice or discrimination against people within the asexual (ace) spectrum; the belief that asexuality is “unnatural”, “wrong” and/or a health issue that needs “correcting”.
※ what is asexual erasure?
denying the existence of asexuality, asexuals and other sexualities and people within the asexual spectrum; the lack of representation and misrepresentation of the asexual spectrum in the media.
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This is #15 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality.
This one covers a question we sometimes get from a vocal minority in the queer community claiming asexual people absolutely do not have problems worth discussing because the very worst thing we ever experience is “hurt feelings” over people not acknowledging our orientation.
Here are the citations and links for everything mentioned in the video.
Siggy’s Breakdown of asexual queerness (orientation and gender identity):
http://skepticsplay.blogspot.com/2010…
My appearance at Creating Change (where I was invited to discuss asexuality at an LGBT conference):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3VnHa…
My interview in the Gay Voices section of the Huffington Post:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06…
The numbered list backups:
1. JOB AND HOUSING DENIAL:
* The study documenting asexual discrimination: “Intergroup Bias toward ‘Group X’: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination against asexuals”
http://gpi.sagepub.com/content/15/6/725
* An anecdotal account of possibly being fired for asexuality:
http://thecupcakeace.wordpress.com/20…
* A follow-up to this story by the same person:
http://thecupcakeace.wordpress.com/20…
2. ADOPTION DENIAL:
* Discussed in Olivier Cormier-Otaño’s lecture, wherein he mentioned asexual couples getting denied adoption because “If you’re asexual, you’re not fit to be married.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-cI61…
3. CONSUMMATION LAWS:
* These may change, but as of the creation of this video, the states requiring consummation for a marriage to be legal are here:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Which_state…
* For laws regarding consummation as it refers to a couple that includes one immigrant, please see this document:
http://www.state.gov/documents/organi…
4. ANTI-DISCRIMINATION LAW:
* In New York, SONDA, the Sexual Orientation Non-Discrimination Act, mentions asexuality as one of the sexual orientations that cannot be discriminated against legally.
http://www.ag.ny.gov/civil-rights/son…
* In Vermont, asexuality is included in a “protected category” list under “sexual orientation”:
http://hrc.vermont.gov/
* The proposed legislation in Texas that names asexuality as a protected class is reported on in a news article here:
http://news.yahoo.com/could-texas-cit…
* The law paper by Elizabeth Emens, accepted by Standford Law Review, which thoroughly examines how asexual people live in a prejudicial environment and how that works out legally, is entitled “Compulsory Sexuality.”
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cf…
5. “CORRECTIVE” RAPE:
* Huffington Post discussed “corrective” rape and how it’s hurting the asexual community here:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06…
Here is a Tumblr thread where another user and I discuss rape threats:
http://swankivy.tumblr.com/post/50603…
* You can see some of the rape threats I have received here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJo…
* And you can read about my experience with a man forcing himself on me after I told him I wasn’t interested here:
http://juliesondradecker.blogspot.jp/…
6. POOR REPRESENTATION IN MEDIA:
* Godiva’s is a Canadian show that is canceled. It featured an asexual heteroromantic man, Martin. He was “fixed” with testosterone supplements.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godiva%27s
* Huge is an American show that is canceled. It had an asexual aromantic woman, Poppy, in a minor role. She mentioned her asexuality once during a discussion with a fellow camp counselor and it was never mentioned again.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Huge_%28…
* Shortland Street is a New Zealand show that is still going on as of this writing. It featured an asexual biromantic man, Gerald. His asexuality is examined deeply throughout the series.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shortlan…
Episodes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgju7Q…
The bad House episode is called “Better Half”:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Better_H…
7. MISDIAGNOSIS WITH A MENTAL DISORDER:
* DSM definition of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder:
http://www.behavenet.com/node/21614
8. DEPRESSION AND SUICIDE:
* The Trevor Project: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/
* Materials created by AAW for the Trevor Project’s volunteers:
http://asexualawarenessweek.com/trevo…