Category: Being called abusive, selfish

ASESSUALITÀ: le risposte ai dubbi dei lettori

Translation: Asexuality, answers to the readers’ doubts

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:


ASEXUALITY understood as sexual orientation DOES NOT EXIST.
There is asexual disorder, understood as pathology. Unfortunately, this confusion has been generated by LGBT associations that have recently improperly categorized asexual disorder as ASEXUALITY.
This social drift was reached on the initiative of the lobby of the LGBT associations, always thirsty for political power deriving from the consent of the minorities, in an attempt to attract people affected by asexual disorder by improperly raising this pathology to the rank of alternative sexual orientation (recte, negative ).»

Read the whole article here.

Shit People Say to Asexuals

Need more info on asexuality? I have a book out. Buy or borrow a copy of The Invisible Orientation:…
Want to know more about why these statements/questions are inappropriate? Read the info sheet with explanations:…
If we come out to you, we probably don’t mind discussing our orientation, but pretty much anything recited in this video is probably a bad idea to say to us. . . . Don’t be afraid to talk to us or ask questions, but sometimes on the sensitive topics, you might be better off doing your own research. You may also like these for further reading/watching:
“How to Be an Asexual Ally,” my article:…
Asexual Bingo (my video of much more offensive quotes):…
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network:

Thank you to my collaborators Nick, Axx, Kathryn, 65dgs, TungstenEdge, ampersandstringquartet, Dallas, Ace Amoeba, Chel, Rynn, Michael, CocoaPanda, Muffin, Sara Beth, and Raingoddess2040.

Letters to an Asexual #68 (“I don’t HATE aces; I pity them!”)

This is #68 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I read some comments on a mainstream media article where the fellow argues that nobody should hate or harass asexuals; we should all just feel sorry for them, and by no means should we treat them like this is a normal enough way to be. The difference must be acknowledged or someone might get the idea that it’s okay to live like that or something! Sheesh! 😀

Letters to an Asexual #39 (“We have a right to EXPECT sex unless otherwise disclosed!”)

This is #39 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality.

Here I share someone’s opinion on sex in relationships: namely, that they have a right to expect sex 2 to 3 times a week unless otherwise agreed. If asexual people want to negotiate otherwise, they say, that is fine, but if they do not explicitly tell their partner(s) how little sex they will be getting, this is a violation on par with not paying your bill at a restaurant or refusing to use the toilet in your shared home. Nice!


13 Stories of Asexual and Aromantic Oppression


«Some things happened in the asexual and aromantic community this week and for the most part they were positive. I won’t go into detail now because this post is not about that. One thing that did happen was aces and aros getting some attention on the blogging platform tumblr. And not all of it good attention.

What I found particularly disturbing was repeated assertions that asexual and aromantic people do not experience oppression. This is so incorrect.

First of all, let me be clear what I mean when I say oppression. The word doesn’t necessarily mean being locked up or killed. It doesn’t have to mean systematic and deliberate acts by a Government. Oppression, in the context of social justice, means behaviours and words that marginalise and cause harm to a minority. It doesn’t have to be overt and it doesn’t have to be deliberate. All that’s required is that the victims are marginalised and that the behaviour is harmful: physically harmful, emotionally harmful, it doesn’t matter. It also doesn’t matter whether a person who is not part of the marginalised group in question thinks the act should be considered oppressive. It is up to the people experiencing the harm to say whether they feel oppressed.»

Read the whole article here.