Category: Claiming asexuality is an excuse for being ugly, not being able to get laid

Responding to Asexual Hate Comments
Sometimes people are mean to me about being Asexual on the internet. So let’s use that as a teachable moment, shall we?
 
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Alltag einer Asexuellen
“Du bist doch krank!”

Translation: Every day life of an asexual
“You’re sick!”

The following comments were made in a video about asexuality.


Watch the whole video here.

Translated quote:

“It’s¹ human. It’s na… I’m gonna say it’s natural. Sounds shitty, but it’s natural.”

0:28

¹”It” = having sex.


Translated quote:

“I’ll sort her out. I’ll turn her straight² again.”

0:33

²He uses the term “gerade”, which literally translates to “straight”, not to the sexual orientation, while that’s also implied.


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks what they think why asexual people are asexual]

“They are ugly. *laughs*”

0:45

“Bad experience…”

0:47


Translated quote:

[Interviewer lists comments made regarding asexual people]

“I’m gonna be able to seduce you. Oh God. Something bad probably happened. Oh well, maybe you could try therapy. “

2:40


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks asexual woman Nicole’s best friend how he felt when she came out to him]

“I’ve already suspected. It wasn’t a big shock, but it was sad nevertheless, that it is the way I thought it would be.”

[Interviewer asks why]

“Because I’d have hoped differently for her.”

7:20


Asexual Bingo

Sometimes silly, sometimes serious, and always with lots of bad language and inappropriate graphics, here is a capsule view of the kinds of comments I get on my YouTube videos and through other channels regarding asexuality. And keeping track of how much fail I encountered was made easier with the handy-dandy Asexual Bingo card. (Believe me, I’ve heard EVERYTHING on it, but I had to cut a lot of stuff even to make this video.) If nothing else, this should give you an idea of how often certain sentiments are expressed and why these people’s knee-jerk condescending comments are not helping anyone and certainly aren’t doing much but making them look like their anger and frustration toward me for not wanting to have sex is way out of proportion for what people should be expressing about some stranger’s sex life.

The opening song is “Isabella” by the Mediæval Bæbes. And yes, I am really the age I say I am in the video. And thank you, yes my hair is pretty awesome.

Shit People Say to Asexuals

Need more info on asexuality? I have a book out. Buy or borrow a copy of The Invisible Orientation: http://juliesondradecker.com/?page_id…
Want to know more about why these statements/questions are inappropriate? Read the info sheet with explanations:
http://swankivy.com/writing/essays/ph…
If we come out to you, we probably don’t mind discussing our orientation, but pretty much anything recited in this video is probably a bad idea to say to us. . . . Don’t be afraid to talk to us or ask questions, but sometimes on the sensitive topics, you might be better off doing your own research. You may also like these for further reading/watching:
“How to Be an Asexual Ally,” my article:
http://goodvibesblog.com/how-to-be-an…
Asexual Bingo (my video of much more offensive quotes): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJo…
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network:
http://asexuality.org

Thank you to my collaborators Nick, Axx, Kathryn, 65dgs, TungstenEdge, ampersandstringquartet, Dallas, Ace Amoeba, Chel, Rynn, Michael, CocoaPanda, Muffin, Sara Beth, and Raingoddess2040.