Category: Claiming asexuality is a result of sexual abuse, trauma

Acephobia & Anti-asexual hate crime

Excerpt:

«What is anti-asexual hate crime?

Any offence should be treated as an anti-asexual hate crime if the person who experienced it or anyone else feels it was an expression of acephobia. Anti-asexual hate crime can include verbal abuse and violence from neighbours or strangers. Because people’s asexual identity is not always visible to strangers, anti-asexual abuse can often be concentrated in settings where the targeted person and perpetrator know each other. That can include verbal abuse or unwanted sexual touching from acquaintances and anti-asexual domestic abuse from family or partners. This also includes actual and threats of so-called “corrective” rape, to “fix” the person’s orientation.

These crimes are less easy to recognise but it is equally important to record and address them in a manner that addresses their motivation of hostility. To qualify to be recorded as a hate incident, a report needn’t include anti-asexual language. It is enough for a reporting person to perceive that it was motivated by acephobia.»


Read the whole article here.

Alltag einer Asexuellen
“Du bist doch krank!”

Translation: Every day life of an asexual
“You’re sick!”

The following comments were made in a video about asexuality.


Watch the whole video here.

Translated quote:

“It’s¹ human. It’s na… I’m gonna say it’s natural. Sounds shitty, but it’s natural.”

0:28

¹”It” = having sex.


Translated quote:

“I’ll sort her out. I’ll turn her straight² again.”

0:33

²He uses the term “gerade”, which literally translates to “straight”, not to the sexual orientation, while that’s also implied.


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks what they think why asexual people are asexual]

“They are ugly. *laughs*”

0:45

“Bad experience…”

0:47


Translated quote:

[Interviewer lists comments made regarding asexual people]

“I’m gonna be able to seduce you. Oh God. Something bad probably happened. Oh well, maybe you could try therapy. “

2:40


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks asexual woman Nicole’s best friend how he felt when she came out to him]

“I’ve already suspected. It wasn’t a big shock, but it was sad nevertheless, that it is the way I thought it would be.”

[Interviewer asks why]

“Because I’d have hoped differently for her.”

7:20

Sh!t People Say to Asexuals.

Written by Emilee. I hope people can relate. xD

ANNOYING Things Asexuals are Tired of Hearing

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“ASESSUALITÀ”: una nuova etichetta nata per giustificare un grave disturbo sessuale

Translation: Asexuality, a new label born to justify a serious sexual disease

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«The lobby of LGBT associations, in fact, mistakenly tries to label these disorders as sexual orientations, even comparing “ASEXUALITY” to homosexuality, unfairly invoking criteria of freedom and non-discrimination to protect this minority. In reality, wanting to make a forced comparison, “ASEXUALITY” should be more properly compared to pedophilia, as both disorders are harmful sexual deviations. If pedophilia harms, unfortunately, third parties abused, “ASEXUALITY” is in any case detrimental to the personal balance of the person affected and any partner. The direct effect of asexual disorder is, of course, the impairment of one’s social and relational life conduct, which is affected by the difficulty of relating to a primary and atavistic drive such as sexual instinct. This damage is as serious as that caused by the opposite disorder, or hypersexuality, more commonly known as “nymphomania”.»


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Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

An uncensored version of the screenshot exists here. The password is Sicnetpv.

Translation:

Girl: “Good evening, I don’t want to attack you or anything else, can I ask you to have a civile discussion? I’d like to understand why you hate so much asexual people”

Acephobe: “I don’t hate anyone and I never wrote about hating anyone. Where did you read it? Are you also dyslexic in addiction to having trauma related to sexuality?”
 
“However I repeat that there is no asexuality: those who have problems with sex have problems with their bodies and therefore have a disorder to solve. Sexuality is a primary drive and if it’s missing it means that there is a trauma that must be identified and resolved”
 
“But then you are 17 years old, you aren’t asexual, you simply haven’t found who opens your legs properly. Go fuck and don’t fuck with me” 
(In the message he says “asessuata”, in Italian there’s a huge difference between “asessuale” and “asessuato/a/*, the first one means not having genitals, the second one means don’t feel sexual attraction, so the first one is an insult for asexual people). 
 
Girl: “I’m sorry, I thought I could have a civilized, mature discussion with you, but obviously I was wrong”
 
Acephobe: “Your ass stinks of shit and your mouth stinks of milk. Get fucked by a Maghreb before you make serious speeches. Now go”
 
Girl: “I’ve got better things to do, good evening” 
 
Acephobe: *sends dickpic* 
“Suck the n****r cock and you’ll get over it, cow”


Asexual Bingo

Sometimes silly, sometimes serious, and always with lots of bad language and inappropriate graphics, here is a capsule view of the kinds of comments I get on my YouTube videos and through other channels regarding asexuality. And keeping track of how much fail I encountered was made easier with the handy-dandy Asexual Bingo card. (Believe me, I’ve heard EVERYTHING on it, but I had to cut a lot of stuff even to make this video.) If nothing else, this should give you an idea of how often certain sentiments are expressed and why these people’s knee-jerk condescending comments are not helping anyone and certainly aren’t doing much but making them look like their anger and frustration toward me for not wanting to have sex is way out of proportion for what people should be expressing about some stranger’s sex life.

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Letters to an Asexual #68 (“I don’t HATE aces; I pity them!”)

This is #68 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I read some comments on a mainstream media article where the fellow argues that nobody should hate or harass asexuals; we should all just feel sorry for them, and by no means should we treat them like this is a normal enough way to be. The difference must be acknowledged or someone might get the idea that it’s okay to live like that or something! Sheesh! 😀