Category: Being called sick

Acephobia & Anti-asexual hate crime

Excerpt:

«What is anti-asexual hate crime?

Any offence should be treated as an anti-asexual hate crime if the person who experienced it or anyone else feels it was an expression of acephobia. Anti-asexual hate crime can include verbal abuse and violence from neighbours or strangers. Because people’s asexual identity is not always visible to strangers, anti-asexual abuse can often be concentrated in settings where the targeted person and perpetrator know each other. That can include verbal abuse or unwanted sexual touching from acquaintances and anti-asexual domestic abuse from family or partners. This also includes actual and threats of so-called “corrective” rape, to “fix” the person’s orientation.

These crimes are less easy to recognise but it is equally important to record and address them in a manner that addresses their motivation of hostility. To qualify to be recorded as a hate incident, a report needn’t include anti-asexual language. It is enough for a reporting person to perceive that it was motivated by acephobia.»


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Ein Ass im Bett

Translation: An ace in bed

The following comments were made on an article about asexuality.


You can read the whole article here.

Translation:

Points of view

Dear Alex, what you’re describing here, labeled as a type of sexual orientation (In your case the non-existence of one, respectively) is nothing more than an inherent low sex drive. I’m making that diagnosis without being a medical doctor or a psychologist, but from my own experience.


As a man, I’m familiar with phases of completely overheated horniness, where every street is overflowing with the hottest and most desirable women, and other times of total disinterest where you ask yourself how a man could ever find attractive about these short-legged, fat-assed creatures.

Good luck for your life! Maybe you’re interested and talented in spirituality and then asexuality is almost a blessing…


Translation:

Asexuality from the perspective of a sexual partner

I see it similarly. Being in a relationship without sex is hard for the sexual part. It doesn’t matter whether asexuality, depression or medication have caused the other one’s loss of libido. You’re regularly (as a woman at least every 4 weeks) confronted with the task to deal with your  lust on your own because the object of desire isn’t interested in it. You quickly feel left alone with the problem. Compliments, kind words or maybe snuggling in front of the TV simply aren’t the same. Even if it’s meant well, being in bed with a listless partner who shows no initiative, is not fun either.
So if there can never be any sexual contact due to asexuality for example, an important part of ​​the relationship is disturbed and strained. To compensate, it would have to be a nearly perfect match in all other areas. In general, I find it difficult to imagine a purely asexual relationship. What distinguishes that from a close, trusting friendship that goes through all ups and downs? That you don’t ask for exclusivity in others? I know friends who live together and even help each other with financial problems. I, personally can even feel secure with a good friend who will help me when things are crappy. The mentioned butterflies in the stomach, to me, are just a sign of being infatuated and not of love.


Translation:

the perfect relationship

Fortunately, today there are tree partnerships for vegetarians
and not just gray ones, but also in voluptuous green shades
add a little oxytocine and every fir branch provides unforgettable, transcending excesses for each icicle.


Translation:

Sex doesn’t equal sex

What a cute and funny article! I wholeheartedly wish you that you’ll find all the romance that you want. However, I do have one piece of advice (you can’t know this): For sexual people, it’s actually also “making love” (connection, hormones, perspiring closeness etc.) and when you’re in love, but can’t physically indulge yourself in this intense way, something’s simply missing. Therefore, having sex with people whom you don’t love, wouldn’t be a substitute. But thank God, there is the internet for dating. I wish you good luck!


Translation:

A little too much fuss

I assume that there are many asexuals.

You can imagine that with some adipose couples, the physical deficiencies make the exchange of bodily fluids unlikely.  There, the romantic candlelight dinner ought to be a higher priority than the attempt at a mutual workout.

One thing that the article doesn’t seem to state is to what extent does physicality matter at all and what does he hope to gain from such a relationship.


Translation:

Not the first time

It isn’t the first time that I’ve read such an article online about this topic. I’m interested in this topic, though I’m not afflicted by it myself. One thing I always find remarkable, and that’s that in all these articles, the afflicted never write whether they’ve had a complete checkup? I mean, hormonal etc. and all the way up to their psyche? I always get the feeling that at some point in life, they’ve resigned to this and that’s just how it is. Under normal, natural conditions, the phenomenon asexuality wouldn’t spread, as, strictly speaking, reproduction shouldn’t be happening, that would pass on these genes. It would just occasionally appear as a genetic defect. How much influence our hormones have, regarding our behavior, cannot be emphasized enough. If certain hormones are missing or the opposite, it can lead to extreme conditions like for example the complete loss of smell or other things. My thesis is that a majority of asexual people aren’t merely asexual but that actually a different physical cause is deluding them to believe in this condition, as this condition isn’t of biological value in regard to the conservation of species.


Translation:

Those who want to live without sex, have never had good sex.

That’s a pity, but at some point, it can’t be changed or only with difficulty. In the end, this applies: Live and let live. If asexuality happens willingly, society has to tolerate it. On the other hand, asexuals should also tolerate the sexual nuances of other people. THAT’s how simple life can be.


Translation:

Whether asexuality is genetically predetermined,…

…or acquired through fate or nurture, that’s the question.

In the past, people tried to rid young people of their sexuality (e.g. masturbation) via conveyed feelings of guilt. Today this happens in a similar way, but with people who aren’t interested in sexuality much, whom differ from the “norm” and could be “healed”.

The past’s compulsory uptightness has simply been replaced by today’s compulsory uptightness. Both have compulsion, societal pressure in common that can lead to mental impotence or frigidity.

That is the sad result of the “sexual revolution so that today some “sexual deviants” feel compelled to explain themselves.

I don’t know if it will reassure the article’s author, but he isn’t anything special with his problems, because people whom are interested in sex and sexually active can struggle to find the right partner, too. Because an open and and more or less taboo-free person won’t become comfortable with an uptight person. The problem is how to find out as soon as possible with a potential partner. Because quite often, things aren’t as they look at first glance.

It still should be clarified whether asexuality may really be disguised uptightness, impotence or frigidity.  And thus, the inability to signal the (potential) partner their true desires.


Translation:

I feel bad for you!

I don’t mean this ironically. I honestly pity you, like I pity a deaf person whom will never experience the beauty of Calla’s voice or the melancholy of a Nocturne by Chopin, or a blind person whom can never watch a ballet or a sunset. The only consolation for you and other asexuals is that you don’t know what you’re missing.

If you call an orgasm meager and its foreplay boring, it could have been with the wrong partner, which you probably rule out on principle. It would be interesting to learn whether this sexual disorder affects more men or women?

An orgasm and the mutual game of giving and enjoyment to the orgasm, is one of the most beautiful and intensive things that you can experience in a human relationship. It’s like a pas de deux at dancing that improves the more intensive and the more intimate both dancers can give themselves to each other and become one in the dance. It depends on the partner’s skill to emotionally and physically empathize with the other person. That requires trust.

Maybe you lack this skill of physical interpersonal communication? What a pity for you!

[Comment by the editor about the use of autism as a metaphor and speculations on people’s thoughts and feelings, which they have removed both.]

AL POSTO DEL CUORE  (The asexual part begins after 10 minutes)
Translation:

“There’s a thing we must say no firmly”
“If they didn’t censore me, go plug your children’s ears. I’m going to say it… Asexuals”
“Asexuals?”
“Asexuals!”
“What’s this? The ones who, despite summer, warmth, sun and sunsets, don’t have sex because they are single because it’s a bad moment, aren’t them?”
“It’s even worse! These persons aren’t interested in sex, they’ve completely ousted it from their lives and they claim it as a strong life choice”
“Where will we end? Do you realize it?”
“Is it a religious choice? Their religion doesn’t let them having sex?”
“No, they follow their nature”
“Do they really exist? Are there asexual men, too?”
“Dramatically, yes”
“What? There are males that aren’t interested in having sex?”
“Incredible, but true”
“I don’t believe it, ew”
“According to recent studies the 1% of the population has this disease, in 100 people one is asexual. They’re ill. Ew”
*laughs*
“It’s a movement that have always existed but recently these weird people – because they’re weird – reunited them in an international movement with the name of asexual and they claim their life choice without any shame. OMG, I’m still shocked. Ew”
“Who do they claim their choice to? If I make a choice, it’s my choice. I don’t tell the whole universe that I don’t make sex because… No, who cares?”
“Instead they don’t do it as a form of reaction to modern society in which we’re bombarded by sexual contents…”
“I was thinking. Are they living better than us? I mean, they don’t have distractions, women don’t have to wax, no complications…”
“I beg you to shut up, Paola, you’re talking like an asexual, ew. Because they say that their condition of I-L-L-N-E-S-S is a great freedom because they have more time to dedicate to the things that truly matter for them”
(…)
“Good news: asexuals surely don’t reproduce, so luckily they’re a dying breed”
“What a relief!”

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

EX ASESSUALI: le testimonianze dei guariti

Translation: Ex asexuals, witnesses of the healed ones

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«Although asexuality is not an offense such as pedophilia, which harms third parties causing serious damage and trauma, it still generates heavy emotional, psychological and social disturbances and repercussions both in the person affected and in any partner. However, if society has rightly condemned pedophilia, this has not yet happened with asexuality, due to the lower social and physical danger of the pathology, but above all because of the political pressures linked to an unjust extremism of meaning politically correct.

Therefore subjects affected by asexual disorder should be treated as pedophiles, or induced to take care of themselves in order to try to reduce the damage or, if possible, heal.

It would be nice to be able to delude ourselves that asexuals will die out, since they do not reproduce. Unfortunately, however, they are all creatures born of ignorance forced by the dictatorship of minorities and ignorance, as you know, is always pregnant.
»


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ASESSUALITÀ, l’elenco delle sottocategorie aggiornato con le ultime novità

Translation: Asexuality, list of the subcategories updated with the last news

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpts, translated via Google translate:

«These subjects unjustly claim the existence of a fourth sexual orientation with respect to the only three existing sexual orientations: straight, homo and bisexual. Their absurd slogan is: “No sex, no problem” because, according to what they would like to convince themselves, they could live happily even without sexual pleasure, without masturbation, without frustrations due to the absence of sex. This, of course, is only a bitter attempt to cover up the malaise in the person who lives it, due to the pathological lack of sexual desire. In fact, many of them have aggressive attitudes towards sexuality, being rightly people who have repressed their sexual impulses for physical impossibility to have relationships or psychological motivations.»

«We cite therefore, by way of example but not limited to, only a few labels including, that of greysexual, lithosexual, akoisessual, fraysexual, apotosexual, aegosexual, autochorosexual, quoisexual, asexual, cupiosexual, demiromantic, greyromantic, demiromantic, poliromantic, poliromantic, poliromantic pomomomial skolyoromantic, lithromantic, sapioromantic, antisexual, queerplatonic, semisexual, etc.

It is not necessary to go into unnecessary details analyzing one by one all these far-fetched categories, also because it would be an operation that would please these demented endorsing their delirium. It is sufficient to limit ourselves to saying that they are all the result of the same pathological weakness: that of feeling at all costs part of a group, identifying itself in a category.

And for each of these labels there is a minority group that claims to have the right to socially redeem their specific, deserving of protection, fetishistic delirium linked to the repulsion of sex.

Because if society has discriminated against homosexuals and Jews in the past, it would be very serious today to discriminate against them too! Any person who wakes up one morning and claims to create a label based on their dog’s cock, through which to claim rights, must be automatically considered to be the custodian of the right not to be discriminated against.
»


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“ASESSUALITÀ”: una nuova etichetta nata per giustificare un grave disturbo sessuale

Translation: Asexuality, a new label born to justify a serious sexual disease

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«The lobby of LGBT associations, in fact, mistakenly tries to label these disorders as sexual orientations, even comparing “ASEXUALITY” to homosexuality, unfairly invoking criteria of freedom and non-discrimination to protect this minority. In reality, wanting to make a forced comparison, “ASEXUALITY” should be more properly compared to pedophilia, as both disorders are harmful sexual deviations. If pedophilia harms, unfortunately, third parties abused, “ASEXUALITY” is in any case detrimental to the personal balance of the person affected and any partner. The direct effect of asexual disorder is, of course, the impairment of one’s social and relational life conduct, which is affected by the difficulty of relating to a primary and atavistic drive such as sexual instinct. This damage is as serious as that caused by the opposite disorder, or hypersexuality, more commonly known as “nymphomania”.»


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