Category: Conversion therapy

Alltag einer Asexuellen
“Du bist doch krank!”

Translation: Every day life of an asexual
“You’re sick!”

The following comments were made in a video about asexuality.


Watch the whole video here.

Translated quote:

“It’s¹ human. It’s na… I’m gonna say it’s natural. Sounds shitty, but it’s natural.”

0:28

¹”It” = having sex.


Translated quote:

“I’ll sort her out. I’ll turn her straight² again.”

0:33

²He uses the term “gerade”, which literally translates to “straight”, not to the sexual orientation, while that’s also implied.


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks what they think why asexual people are asexual]

“They are ugly. *laughs*”

0:45

“Bad experience…”

0:47


Translated quote:

[Interviewer lists comments made regarding asexual people]

“I’m gonna be able to seduce you. Oh God. Something bad probably happened. Oh well, maybe you could try therapy. “

2:40


Translated quote:

[Interviewer asks asexual woman Nicole’s best friend how he felt when she came out to him]

“I’ve already suspected. It wasn’t a big shock, but it was sad nevertheless, that it is the way I thought it would be.”

[Interviewer asks why]

“Because I’d have hoped differently for her.”

7:20

Acephobia from within the LGBT+ community | Slice of Ace
The second of my Pride 2020 videos is a rant about LGBT+ folk being aphobic. Sorry if it got a bit negative. We’ll be back to my regularly-scheduled positivity next week 🙂

Here are some ways you can help BLM:
 
 
Music: Calm Jazz by AndyJazz on AudioJungle
https://audiojungle.net/item/calm-jaz…

EX ASESSUALI: le testimonianze dei guariti

Translation: Ex asexuals, witnesses of the healed ones

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«Although asexuality is not an offense such as pedophilia, which harms third parties causing serious damage and trauma, it still generates heavy emotional, psychological and social disturbances and repercussions both in the person affected and in any partner. However, if society has rightly condemned pedophilia, this has not yet happened with asexuality, due to the lower social and physical danger of the pathology, but above all because of the political pressures linked to an unjust extremism of meaning politically correct.

Therefore subjects affected by asexual disorder should be treated as pedophiles, or induced to take care of themselves in order to try to reduce the damage or, if possible, heal.

It would be nice to be able to delude ourselves that asexuals will die out, since they do not reproduce. Unfortunately, however, they are all creatures born of ignorance forced by the dictatorship of minorities and ignorance, as you know, is always pregnant.
»


Read the whole article here.

ASESSUALITÀ: le risposte ai dubbi dei lettori

Translation: Asexuality, answers to the readers’ doubts

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«1- DOES ASEXUALITY EXIST SCIENTIFICALLY?

ASEXUALITY understood as sexual orientation DOES NOT EXIST.
There is asexual disorder, understood as pathology. Unfortunately, this confusion has been generated by LGBT associations that have recently improperly categorized asexual disorder as ASEXUALITY.
This social drift was reached on the initiative of the lobby of the LGBT associations, always thirsty for political power deriving from the consent of the minorities, in an attempt to attract people affected by asexual disorder by improperly raising this pathology to the rank of alternative sexual orientation (recte, negative ).»


Read the whole article here.

“ASESSUALITÀ”: una nuova etichetta nata per giustificare un grave disturbo sessuale

Translation: Asexuality, a new label born to justify a serious sexual disease

Submitted and translated by “L’afobia esiste” @stop.afobia_ita

Excerpt, translated via Google translate:

«The lobby of LGBT associations, in fact, mistakenly tries to label these disorders as sexual orientations, even comparing “ASEXUALITY” to homosexuality, unfairly invoking criteria of freedom and non-discrimination to protect this minority. In reality, wanting to make a forced comparison, “ASEXUALITY” should be more properly compared to pedophilia, as both disorders are harmful sexual deviations. If pedophilia harms, unfortunately, third parties abused, “ASEXUALITY” is in any case detrimental to the personal balance of the person affected and any partner. The direct effect of asexual disorder is, of course, the impairment of one’s social and relational life conduct, which is affected by the difficulty of relating to a primary and atavistic drive such as sexual instinct. This damage is as serious as that caused by the opposite disorder, or hypersexuality, more commonly known as “nymphomania”.»


Read the whole article here.


Asexual Bingo

Sometimes silly, sometimes serious, and always with lots of bad language and inappropriate graphics, here is a capsule view of the kinds of comments I get on my YouTube videos and through other channels regarding asexuality. And keeping track of how much fail I encountered was made easier with the handy-dandy Asexual Bingo card. (Believe me, I’ve heard EVERYTHING on it, but I had to cut a lot of stuff even to make this video.) If nothing else, this should give you an idea of how often certain sentiments are expressed and why these people’s knee-jerk condescending comments are not helping anyone and certainly aren’t doing much but making them look like their anger and frustration toward me for not wanting to have sex is way out of proportion for what people should be expressing about some stranger’s sex life.

The opening song is “Isabella” by the Mediæval Bæbes. And yes, I am really the age I say I am in the video. And thank you, yes my hair is pretty awesome.

Shit People Say to Asexuals

Need more info on asexuality? I have a book out. Buy or borrow a copy of The Invisible Orientation: http://juliesondradecker.com/?page_id…
Want to know more about why these statements/questions are inappropriate? Read the info sheet with explanations:
http://swankivy.com/writing/essays/ph…
If we come out to you, we probably don’t mind discussing our orientation, but pretty much anything recited in this video is probably a bad idea to say to us. . . . Don’t be afraid to talk to us or ask questions, but sometimes on the sensitive topics, you might be better off doing your own research. You may also like these for further reading/watching:
“How to Be an Asexual Ally,” my article:
http://goodvibesblog.com/how-to-be-an…
Asexual Bingo (my video of much more offensive quotes): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJo…
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network:
http://asexuality.org

Thank you to my collaborators Nick, Axx, Kathryn, 65dgs, TungstenEdge, ampersandstringquartet, Dallas, Ace Amoeba, Chel, Rynn, Michael, CocoaPanda, Muffin, Sara Beth, and Raingoddess2040.


Letters to an Asexual #60 (Obsessive Harasser)

This is #60 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I share the harassing messages of a repeat offender who has been targeting queer activists for many years. Did you know asexuality isn’t normal and I need to see a therapist? Unless the therapist would tell me I’m fine, in which case therapists are crazy too? Maybe it would convince me if my harasser were to obsessively pore over my biographical details and try to use facts about my extended family against me? Because that’s something very stable people do to “help” people like me all the time!