Need more info on asexuality? I have a book out. Buy or borrow a copy of The Invisible Orientation: http://juliesondradecker.com/?page_id…
Want to know more about why these statements/questions are inappropriate? Read the info sheet with explanations:
http://swankivy.com/writing/essays/ph…
If we come out to you, we probably don’t mind discussing our orientation, but pretty much anything recited in this video is probably a bad idea to say to us. . . . Don’t be afraid to talk to us or ask questions, but sometimes on the sensitive topics, you might be better off doing your own research. You may also like these for further reading/watching:
“How to Be an Asexual Ally,” my article:
http://goodvibesblog.com/how-to-be-an…
Asexual Bingo (my video of much more offensive quotes): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJo…
The Asexual Visibility and Education Network:
http://asexuality.org
Thank you to my collaborators Nick, Axx, Kathryn, 65dgs, TungstenEdge, ampersandstringquartet, Dallas, Ace Amoeba, Chel, Rynn, Michael, CocoaPanda, Muffin, Sara Beth, and Raingoddess2040.
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This is #62 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality. In this one I read some of the shorter comments I’ve had thrown at me by trolls, most of them people who sought out my content just to tell me no one cares about it. OK hun, you do you.
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This is #46 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or–more often–misconceptions about asexuality.
In this video, I cover why our physical appearance should not be understood as either a signal for sex or an excuse for why we can’t get sex. Our orientation isn’t dependent on how other people feel about sex with us.
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Acephobia/Aphobia
Invalidation
Rape threats
Misogynistic language
Mention of sex
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Check out the Sky News documentary to see the comments for yourself (there were many more than what I said here, some which are worse):
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+ YouTube Comments: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzLrB…
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Battling Asexual Discrimination, Sexual Violence And ‘Corrective’ Rape
Excerpts:
« Sexual harassment and violence, including so-called “corrective” rape, is disturbingly common in the ace community, says Decker, who has received death threats and has been told by several online commenters that she just needs a “good raping.”
“When people hear that you’re asexual, some take that as a challenge,” said Decker, who is currently working on a book about asexuality. “We are perceived as not being fully human because sexual attraction and sexual relationships are seen as something alive, healthy people do. They think that you really want sex but just don’t know it yet. For people who perform corrective rape, they believe that they’re just waking us up and that we’ll thank them for it later.”»
«In response to the post, an anonymous user wrote, “[A]sexuality is not a thing. You are just ugly and no one wanted to date you, so you made up a thing to cuddle your lonely self as you cry into your pillow. Also, I hope you get raped. It has a dual benefit, you’ll get laid finally AND put you into your place as well.”»
«Last year, the apparent bias against aces was corroborated by a landmark study conducted by Brock University researchers Gordon Hodson and Cara McInnis. The study found that people of all sexual stripes are more likely to discriminate against asexuals, compared to other sexual minorities.»
Read the whole article here.